on planning the "BIG DAY"

I wanted a big wedding, I have been dreaming about it since I was a child, . I want all my  family and friends to be there. To celebrate & be happy., afterall it happens once in a lifetime.
I am the kind of person who wanted to please as many people as I can. A people pleaser., so as much as possible I want everybody to come so I won't hurt anybody.

As my life progress I met someone. And that someone is the answer to my prayers. Kind, GOD-fearing, patient, thoughtful, no vices or any bad habit and so on...
We've been in a relationship for a quite a while. Five years to be exact. It wasn't easy because most of the time we are in a "LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP". We only got to spend time together during holidays every 5-6 months since I was working overseas, but our love grew deeper and planned to get hitched.

For five years., we have small talks about our wedding details so we assume that everything will be fine, but things started to be complicated. As what life is about "perplexity" was all around. Small things mattered and a lot of distractions hindered the way.

Because of these, I learned few important things in planning a wedding and I want to share it with you.



1.LISTEN and SPEAK OUT

• Express your thoughts with each other., girls- encourage you future hubby to talk about what he likes, etc. 
• Listen to each others opinion and make arrangements. 
• As much as possible plan and arrange everything together first before getting somebody to help you when needed. After all it's your wedding, remember 'The more people involved, he more clashes of ideas'. 

2. ACCEPT CHANGES of PLANS.

• For me this is the hardest part, talking to myself & making a list of "PROS" and "CONS" is a big help. For example, you want a "Sunrise Wedding" but he thinks it's not convenient, ask yourself what's the advantage? Disdavantages?
• Accept changes and adjustments as light hearted as you can. 

3. CONSTANT COMMUNICATION.

• I mean always! It's a must! Communicate to him as  often as you can. There will loads of changes (Even though you're the most organized person in the whole universe) & simple things that matters that you need to decide. 
• It will keep you both posted on every details of your wedding unless you're in for some surprise!
• It will also help you with monetary issues so you'll not spend much. 

4. THINK AHEAD of TIME

• Anticipate the events " What will happen if... What's the possible solution, etc. but not too much dear. don't stress yourself too much! haha
• At least have a picture in your mind. 
• Don't expect too much! too much expectation will ruin your day. It will not be as perfect as you imagine but it will be fine girl. 

5. PRAY TOGETHER

• This is the most important thing. Pray for each other you need lots of this! and lots of patience.
•  Praying together eases the burden & calms the heart. 

It's not easy but worth everything, after all it happens once in a lifetime unless... 

well that's another story :-)

Anyway, ciao for now! I have a wedding to plan :-D
Wish me luck. 

Hugs!